Thursday, April 29, 2010

So I lied...

* I added a new song to the playlist, you should unmute your computer, because it goes with the blog entry today* :)

Apparently the title of my blog is a big fat lie!!!!!!! I see no heaven here.... just a lot of darkness. Someone please explain to me why life is so unfair? Ok, that was rhetorical, don't you dare answer!!!!! If one more person tries to placate me or make me feel better by spouting ridiculous canned phrases, I'm going to move to some desolate part of the earth where Cam and I are the only ones for miles.

Well, that's not true though. Cam and I are really people people...I think that makes sense... So what we really need is to be in a place where we are surrounded with people who aren't focused on domestic crap. We need...where else?...New York. Ahhhhhhhhhhh just thinking about NYC is like a salve on my wound. Have you ever felt so connected to a place that you just knew it was where your destiny lay? I have felt a deep connection to NYC since I was a child. People often thought I was crazy because I had never been there. They always told me I wouldn't like living there, it busy, to crowded, to fast, and too expensive. Have these people not met me???? I have always been a city girl. My mom was recently in NYC and she called me and told me that the streets were so crowded she couldn't walk anywhere without bumping into someone. My response?..."yeah, isn't that awesome?" When I finally got to NYC as an adult, it was like coming home. Cam and I walked the streets and soaked in the feelings of contentment and longing that enveloped us. On top of that it was fall in New England and it was the most beautiful thing I had ever seen. I cried the whole way home.

The next time we were there it was spring and we were able to explore even more. A friend introduced me to one of the millions of little tiny pastry shops on an out of the way street. Someone once told me, you never have to worry about finding a bathroom when your out exploring the city. There is a Starbucks on every corner and they always have clean restrooms. LOL! Even when it rained, the city was beautiful. The architecture truly takes on a Gothic look when the sky is overcast. Need an umbrella? Someone is selling them to your left and to your right. :) The architecture in NYC makes it feel like one big art museum. Its incredible, the cathedrals are indescribable. The Met...what can I say...? The New York Opera house is not far from the Manhattan Temple, they are in a beautiful area. There are little 24 hour markets where you can make your own salad and then find bench to sit and eat it. The book stores, and music shops, and even the drug stores are so unique.

Have you ever been to central park? In the sunshine it is one of the most beautiful and serene places I have ever been. There are trees with trails for walking and biking, open fields for laying in the grass or playing games. There are playgrounds, softball fields, really cool rock formations. You might think that the tall buildings all around would inhibit the sunshine, but they don't.

Have you ever taken a ride on NYC subway? The stations are filled with the music of street performers, peddling their own types of wares, like any other type of market. The crowds rush through and the train speeds to each stop. What a rush. People watching in the subway is...definitely entertaining.

Time square...this is one of my very favorite places in NYC. Its like a pinnacle spot where the streets meet and yo see a little bit of every part of this amazing city. If you stand in the middle and turn in a slow circle...there is nothing like it. I actually took a panoramic video of it on my camera. There are posters for all the shows, commercials flash on the big screens, people rush to where they need to go, but excitement permeates the air. Don't get me wrong, in any city you've got your grumpy bad mood people. But in NYC, there are so many people who are passionate about where they live, but even more, there are so many visitors that everywhere you look you see people enthralled with the magic all around them.

At night the city is bright with lights, they sparkle more than the stars. The crowds don't thin because there is so much night life. Obviously there are places to avoid in the darkness, but if you know where your going, it is a beautiful place to walk at night. One thing about NYC that I really love is that they have regulations for the homeless. They can not spend the night on the street. So, unless your in an area you shouldn't be at night, the streets are not littered with sleeping bags and scary people. I will give Chicago this though, it is a cleaner city that NYC, but then it has like half the population. There are over eight million people in New York City. Eight million!! The inspiration for writing, music, art, etc is everywhere. There is so much of it there. There has only been one time in my life when I have gotten up every morning thinking "I am so lucky to live here and have what I have in my life". I'm always thankful for my blessings, but only once have I lived in a place that was a dream come true. New York City would be the only other place I would feel that everyday. People who don't know me very well, often assume that I would tire of it after a while and that the only reason I love it is because I have only visited it there. Well, your welcome to your opinion, but leave me alone about it would you? Do I knock other people's ambitions to be a stay at home mom, or to live on a farm, or whatever? No. Because everyone has their own dreams. Maybe my blog title isn't such a lie...its just that my bit of heaven here on earth is far away from me and I haven't reached it yet. I have a small piece if it to keep me going though, Cameron is a slice of heaven.

Well, I'll get off of my rant now. If you visit NYC and your experience doesn't mesh with my description, that wouldn't be surprising. Everyone is different and they have their own preferences. But don't assume just because you wouldn't want to live there that I wouldn't like it either. Eight million people obviously like it enough to live there, Cam and I would just make it and eight million and 2. That's right, just two. New York is a place where we can be just 2 and still fit in, feel at home, and not hurt so much that we are just two. If someday we are blessed enough too have a family and New York, well I will have truly found a place on earth I can call Heaven.


Tuesday, April 27, 2010

Life or something like it...

Lucky Cam now has the option to never have homework again. lol. I on the other hand just finished one more class on my road. The good news is, starting tomorrow I start my 7th to last class. Because I can only afford to go part time, it will take me 4 1/2 semesters. But that is about 1 1/4 years. On the bright side, I've never been so close to graduating!!!!

We took a drive on Sunday and looked around for some rentals in the area. There isn't much here. The worst part is that houses require HUGE deposits, so we may end up in another apartment. Blah! There are only two places I would be happy to live in an apt, if you know me well, you'll know where they are. lol. But we'll just have to see.

So, in the spirit of moving, Cam and I have started going through all of our stuff. Thats an interesting road, its amazing how much stuff you think you'll use some day. And while it may be true, you'll almost never remember you have it to use if its packed in a box. So, we figure if we really need it in the future, we'll get another one. :)

Saturday, April 24, 2010

Congratulations Master Cameron!!!

As of tomorrow night Cameron will officially be done with his Master's degree. He will be, in his words, "Master Cameron". lol! He turned in his last assignment tonight and he so excited! I am so proud of him, I could bust my buttons! Except...I'm wearing a T-shirt...well, you get the point! :)

We got an email from our Landlord yesterday, this is the sad news for today. He has decided to use our house as a second home instead of a rental. He was very sweet about it and said it was no reflection on us. He even offered to write us a great recommendation. So, as of July 31, we are on to a new place. We are pretty bummed for two reasons, one: We adore our house and our neighbors, they are really great, two: we will have to do our home inspection again, so the adoption will be put on hold for a little while...again. We aren't sure where we will be looking, because Cam has applied for a new job at a closer college to where we live now. However, if he doesn't get it, we would like to move a little closer to where he works now so that his commute won't be so long. We are hoping the other job starts moving a little quicker so we are down to the line on that decision.

Well, that's all that's going on with us right now...boring huh? lol.

Wednesday, April 14, 2010

Test results for fertility and next steps

So, I've been coresponding with our ferility doctor and he said all of our test results look normal. The next step, if we wanted to be super aggressive, would be IVF (Invitro). However, kaiser only covers half of some ferility treatments, and so far it looks like they don't cover IVF at all. So, that procedure will take some saving, so it'll be closer to a last result.

So, Cam has to go get some blood tests that are required by law...? I have no idea what they are. Anyway, then we'll start with the ferility drugs (clomiphene) probably next month. I have to have an ultrasound at the beginning of the process (again, I don't know exactly what for), and also an injection counseling. The drug we are starting on doesn't require injection, however due to my blood type, the doc says I'll probably need injections of a drug called hCG. On ward and up ward...

Still no word from the county, we are just waiting...

Sunday, April 4, 2010

Rock me to sleep

As I listened to conference today, there were many things said that I felt touched by. For some reason, there were quite a few talks about mothers and this divine calling. After listening to a talk in the morning session about our attitudes and feeling slighted or being angry at others, I felt a little guilty about wanting to fast forward through those talks.

It may be my own fault I'm not a mother yet. I don't put much effort into reading my scriptures, saying my prayers, and Cam and even have real trouble keeping the Sabbath day. We rationalize that it is difficult when it is just the two of us. We get bored and want to leave the house, we don't want to have a two-person FHE, we go to sleep at vastly different times each night, blah, blah, blah... I keep telling myself we will raise righteous children to serve the Lord. Today, they spoke of teaching our children by example. Why should I think that I'll just snap into good habits when I become a mother? I need to develop those habits now. I do realize that, but it doesn't make it any easier. Maybe I will find the focus I need to eat healthier, and do my homework, and the other things that I have desperately prayed for, if I do the small things the Lord asks of me, duh. These are, I'm sure, no surprise to you, but it makes me feel better to write it down. Maybe by putting it out here for anyone to see I'll feel compelled to try harder.

Anyway, Elder Foster recited parts of a poem by Elizabeth Akers Allen and I thought it was very beautiful. I never wanted to be a child, I always longed to be a grown up. People would tell me when I was an adult I would then wish I was still a child. This has never been true until I read this poem. As a child I didn't have to be the mother, I had a great one and if I wanted to be the "mommy" I cared for my dolls (which oddly wasn't often. How strange that for someone who never dreamed of being a mom, I should be so tortured by not being one now). Hopefully, my child will one day think of me this way and long for the days when I rocked them to sleep. Someday I'll do something special with this poem, but for now I'll post it here and hope that someone who missed his talk today will be touched by it too.

"BACKWARD, turn backward, O Time, in your flight,
Make me a child again just for to-night!
Mother, come back from the echoless shore,
Take me again to your heart as of yore;
Kiss from my forehead the furrows of care,
Smooth the few silver threads out of my hair;
Over my slumbers your loving watch keep;—
Rock me to sleep, mother,—rock me to sleep!

Backward, flow backward, O tide of the years!
I am so weary of toil and of tears,—
Toil without recompense, tears all in vain,—
Take them, and give me my childhood again!
I have grown weary of dust and decay,—
Weary of flinging my soul-wealth away;
Weary of sowing for others to reap;—
Rock me to sleep, mother,—rock me to sleep!

Tired of the hollow, the base, the untrue,
Mother, O mother, my heart calls for you!
Many a summer the grass has grown green,
Blossomed and faded, our faces between:
Yet, with strong yearning and passionate pain,
Long I to-night for your presence again.
Come from the silence so long and so deep;—
Rock me to sleep, mother,—rock me to sleep!

Over my heart, in the days that are flown,
No love like mother-love ever has shone;
No other worship abides and endures,—
Faithful, unselfish, and patient like yours:
None like a mother can charm away pain
From the sick soul and the world-weary brain.
Slumber's soft calms o'er my heavy lids creep;—
Rock me to sleep, mother,—rock me to sleep!

Come, let your brown hair, just lighted with gold,
Fall on your shoulders again as of old;
Let it drop over my forehead to-night,
Shading my faint eyes away from the light;
For with its sunny-edged shadows once more
Haply will throng the sweet visions of yore;
Lovingly, softly, its bright billows sweep;—
Rock me to sleep, mother,—rock me to sleep!

Mother, dear mother, the years have been long
Since I last listened your lullaby song:
Sing, then, and unto my soul it shall seem
Womanhood's years have been only a dream.
Clasped to your heart in a loving embrace,
With your light lashes just sweeping my face,
Never hereafter to wake or to weep;—
Rock me to sleep, mother,—rock me to sleep!"
-Elzabeth Akers Allen-










Your soft silky hair brushes my arm
your breathing is even and sweet
I cradle you close to keep you warm
and place a kiss on your sweet rosy cheek

Do you dream of Heaven?
You were there not long ago.
Were you very excited when
it was your turn to go?

I promise to teach you
to walk in the light
I promise to guide you
'till your again in God's sight

No matter how you started your journey
whether through my womb or not
I'll love you for eternity
just as a mother aught

I lay you now down to slumber
I'll still lay by your side for a while
Here is a blanket to tuck you under
how I'm longing for morning and your smile

My eyes pop open to early morning sun
I realize this dream is like every other
I wonder as the tears begin to run
when will I be your mother?
-L-